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This Femme Vibes T-Shirt Is Making Waves In My Local Elementary School

Femme Vibes

My mom picks the best Christmas gifts. She doesn’t just buy one really great gift every year. Instead, she listens all year to what you talk about and gives a whole lot of amazing gifts. It’s almost exhausting opening them, because each one is so exciting. This year was no different, but one of my gifts was particularly more meaningful than the rest — a femme vibes shirt.

This might look like any old feminist shirt to some, but it’s much more than that. And it’s a story that only my mom and I could know. As soon as I unwrapped the box and opened the shirt, we both just looked at each other and smiled.

I got a text from my mom one morning that read, “what does femme vibes mean?

To be completely honest, I thought it was a trick question. The term had been around for a while. It’s mainly used as in the LGBTQ community. Recently, it’s been used as a girl power cry. So I texted that as short and sweet as possibly.

Are you sure it’s not a gang thing?” the text back read. I literally laughed out loud.

My mom works at a school and told me that one of the students was being pulled out of class because she was wearing a “femme vibes” t-shirt. To be completely honest, it pissed me off. It blew my mind that someone would pull a child out of school for that reason. I could only text back one thing…

Stand up for her.

Femme Vibes

After talking to me and hearing the side of the teachers, my mom decided to make a difference. She brought up what I had said about the phrase and said that she didn’t think it was right to punish this little girl. In the end, it didn’t matter what my mom said. The little girl was taken to the principal’s office until her mom could come bring her another shirt.

My mom sticking up for that little girl made me extremely proud.

While one voice couldn’t stop the principal, my mom used her voice to stick up for the voiceless. What she said might not have sparked a change in the principal, but the child saw someone tick up for her and so did the other adults. Because of her, someone will think twice before they jump on the bandwagon and punish a child for something that is unfamiliar to them.

In the end, it was the little girl’s mother who came to the school and told the principal off. The girl got to wear the shirt and she had people on her side. That’s a win-win in the name of girl power, if you ask me.

Femme Vibes

I think people forget that the youth of our country is our future. When you tell a child that they can’t do something — whether you give a reason or not — it gives them a false sense that what they think is wrong. If no one would have stood up for this little girl, she might have gone her entire life thinking that the term “femme vibes” is wrong. Not on my watch.

I don’t know this little girl. I have no reason why she chose to wear that shirt that morning or whether she continued to wear the shirt. (Although I really hope that she did.) This is a great lesson learned to not only youth in the country, but to the adults as well.

Just because you don’t understand something doesn’t mean that it’s wrong.

Take a second to think about the movements and conversations going around you right now. Do you take the time to understand them or do you let other people influence you? Better yet, do you just ignore them at all?

Femme Vibes

No matter what your answer is to that last question, make it a point to be better next time. Educate yourself and take the time to look at different perspectives. Because it’s not your life that depends on it — it’s the future of this country.

xx.

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31 Comments

  • hell0chloe

    Wow, I love this so much. I need that shirt!! You and your mum are amazing for doing what you did – good on you .xx

    January 10, 2018 at 8:02 am Reply
    • KaliBorovic

      Thanks so much! Gotta spread a little girl power where I go, ya know? xx.

      January 10, 2018 at 9:08 am Reply
  • ankokocouture

    You’d think that we’re so over that stuff and that poeple are changing but nope yay for girl power Keep it up ‍♀️

    January 10, 2018 at 9:36 am Reply
    • KaliBorovic

      Right! It’s like people are so busy walking on eggshells that they’re not even thinking xx.

      January 10, 2018 at 9:41 am Reply
  • Sara

    Great post! I also think it was lame they took the girl out of class for wearing that shirt when there’s clearly nothing wrong with it. But I’m also proud of your mom for sticking up for her — that’s a big deal and something that little girl will surely remember her whole life. 🙂

    January 10, 2018 at 10:55 am Reply
    • KaliBorovic

      It just goes to show you that people are afraid of what they don’t know, which is sad xx.

      January 12, 2018 at 8:28 am Reply
  • Mrs.S LDN

    This is such a cool memory!! Its amazing you can have the shirt as a physical reminder! Go Thrift Shop Moma!! xxx

    January 10, 2018 at 11:42 am Reply
    • KaliBorovic

      Yes! I thought it was the absolute sweetest that she took the time to find it. She’s amazing xx.

      January 12, 2018 at 8:29 am Reply
  • Pilates Please

    Love the top!

    January 10, 2018 at 12:06 pm Reply
    • KaliBorovic

      The story is so much better than the shirt! xx.

      January 12, 2018 at 8:35 am Reply
  • theworldoffritters

    I love this!!! It’s amazing that you and your mom stood up for that little girl, this is an incredible story! Go GRL PWR! xx

    January 10, 2018 at 12:10 pm Reply
    • KaliBorovic

      YES! Girl power all the way! xx.

      January 12, 2018 at 8:29 am Reply
  • hdsears1

    There are so many great finds at thrifts, its an uncovered secret almost!

    January 10, 2018 at 1:44 pm Reply
    • KaliBorovic

      Yes! This one wasn’t from the thrift store, but this story was too good not to share xx.

      January 12, 2018 at 8:35 am Reply
  • The Beautender

    Absolutely LOVE this post – thank you for sharing these pieces!

    January 10, 2018 at 2:05 pm Reply
    • KaliBorovic

      You’re so welcome! Fashion has a real power to change lives xx.

      January 12, 2018 at 8:30 am Reply
  • ajournalofstories

    I absolutely love this! The shirt and the story. In today’s day and age, it’s important to let our young ladies know how powerful they are, and what potential they have to give to the world!

    Good on your mom for empowering that child!

    Best,

    Idora

    http://www.ajournalofstories.com

    January 10, 2018 at 2:34 pm Reply
    • KaliBorovic

      There’s a story behind every clothing item, you know? It’s fun to open up about that xx.

      January 12, 2018 at 8:36 am Reply
  • Midtown Donna

    I was completely inspired by this post!! Definitely going to share this one on my Insta story right now because I think it’s so important!! I want one of these shirts now to show a sign of solidarity for that little girl, whose dreams were threatened by the mindlessness of those authorative figures. Thank you so much for sharing with us!! -Chelsea | MidtownDonna.com

    January 10, 2018 at 4:58 pm Reply
    • KaliBorovic

      Thank you so much for sharing! And good luck being more mindful and kind in your own journey. It’s a great message to spread xx.

      January 12, 2018 at 8:37 am Reply
      • Midtown Donna

        Hi Kali! Thank you so much for reading!! Thanks, I’m really excited for my blogging journey to begin having a bigger purpose and to meet and get to know wonderful people like you along the way!!

        January 12, 2018 at 10:43 am Reply
  • Lo

    I want this shirt!!!

    January 10, 2018 at 7:31 pm Reply
    • KaliBorovic

      Looks great and has a great story! xx.

      January 12, 2018 at 8:38 am Reply
  • kittyp0p

    Bless you and your mom, Kali! This is such a great message of positivity and empowerment (: thanks so much for sharing

    January 10, 2018 at 10:40 pm Reply
    • KaliBorovic

      I’m glad that you enjoyed it! I always preach that what we wear matters, and this was proof! xx.

      January 12, 2018 at 8:30 am Reply
  • miasouthertonx

    I love this shirt, it’s super chic. Great post, I can’t believe what happened to that girl so ridiculous X

    January 11, 2018 at 2:26 pm Reply
    • KaliBorovic

      Thanks so much! I’m glad that you enjoyed it xx.

      January 12, 2018 at 8:31 am Reply
  • outnaboutweb

    I am so upset to hear this story! I mean, can we not just chill and a let a poor girl wear a t-shirt? And it’s not that there was a swear word or unappropriate saying on it, so I really don’t understand how this could happen! Lso, I have the exact same shirt, and by coincidence I wore it today!! I thought that was so funny when I saw you had written a whole post about it!
    love, elena

    https://outnaboutweb.wordpress.com

    January 11, 2018 at 6:21 pm Reply
    • KaliBorovic

      Ah I love that you were wearing the shirt while reading! That’s so fun. I love that we can connect through fashion xx.

      January 12, 2018 at 8:34 am Reply
  • chloeburford

    Not only do I love this top the meaning is just so empowering and amazing! You go girl x

    January 12, 2018 at 8:57 am Reply
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